LESSON 3 · Listen Like You Mean It
Stop Rehearsing
The biggest mistake under pressure is writing your comeback while the other person is still talking. Your brain cannot truly listen and compose at the same time — one always loses, and it is usually the listening.
So park the rebuttal. Let them finish completely, then take a single beat of silence before you reply. The silence feels long to you and barely registers to them, but it is enough to make sure you are answering what they actually said.