Safety Vs Spark

The biggest lie in romance: if it's calm, it's boring. In reality, secure relationships feel quieter because your nervous system isn't in fight-or-flight. How to tell the difference:

• Anxiety disguised as love — constant worry about where you stand, mood swinging with their behavior
• Actual love — feeling safe to be yourself, knowing conflict won't end things
• The test — do you feel more like yourself, or less? Love expands you. Anxiety shrinks you