Walls vs Boundaries

How to tell them apart in your own behavior:

• Wall: "I don't do vulnerability" → Boundary: "I need to feel safe before I open up"
• Wall: "I don't need anyone" → Boundary: "I need space to recharge so I can show up fully"
• Wall: "Take it or leave it" → Boundary: "This matters to me; let's find a way that works for both of us"
• Wall: Never sharing feelings → Boundary: Choosing when and with whom to share
• Wall: Cutting people off at the first offense → Boundary: Naming the impact and leaving room for repair.