The Silent Relationship Killer

Most relationship conflicts are not about what happened. They are about what one person expected to happen and did not. You expected them to remember the anniversary. They expected appreciation for their effort. Neither communicated, and now both are hurt.

Expectations come from three places: your family of origin, your culture, and your personal fantasies from movies and books. All three operate below conscious awareness, which is exactly why they cause so much damage when left unexamined.