LESSON 4 · End the Power Struggle
Building Morning Evening Anchors
The two most important routines are morning and evening. Build them with these principles:
- Keep the sequence the same every day, so it becomes automatic
- Use 4-6 steps — more than that overwhelms young children
- Make it visual: a picture chart for pre-readers, a checklist for older kids
- Include one choice, like "cereal or toast?", to give agency within structure
- Build in buffer time, because rushing destroys the calm a routine creates
Example morning routine: wake up, get dressed, eat breakfast, brush teeth, pack bag, shoes on. That is six steps.