Dealbreakers Are Non-Negotiable

A dealbreaker is a core incompatibility that no amount of love, communication, or therapy can fix. Different desires about children. Active addiction without commitment to recovery.

The mistake people make: treating dealbreakers as red flags and hoping they'll change. "They'll want kids eventually." "They'll stop drinking when things settle down." This is fantasy masquerading as optimism. People change when they want to, not when you need them to.