Your Gut Vs Your Wounds

Telling genuine intuition apart from a trauma reaction is key to sizing up a partner. Your gut is calm and clear — it does not scream, it speaks. Wound-based reactions are urgent, panicky, and out of proportion.

If someone's behavior sparks a huge reaction but would look minor to an outsider, that is likely a wound talking. If a friend would also find it concerning, your gut is probably right.

Before acting on a strong reaction, check with someone you trust. Their outside view helps you separate real red flags from old wounds distorting what you see.