The Four Attachment Styles

Understanding where you fall helps explain your relationship patterns:

• Secure — comfortable with intimacy and independence; communicates needs directly.
• Anxious — craves closeness and fears abandonment; stays hypervigilant about a partner's availability.
• Avoidant — values independence and feels uneasy with closeness; creates distance when intimacy grows.
• Disorganized — wants closeness but fears it; often rooted in unpredictable early caregiving.

Your style is not fixed. With awareness and effort, insecure attachment can shift toward security over time.