The Invisible Reach

"Look at that dog." "This song is amazing." "Rough day." These aren't random comments — they're emotional bids, small moments where your partner is reaching for connection.

You have three options when a bid arrives: turn toward it (engage), turn away (ignore), or turn against (reject). Couples who divorced within six years turned toward bids only 33% of the time. Couples still together after six years? 86% of the time.