Repair Killers

These responses destroy repair attempts before they land:

• "But you also..." — counter-accusations void the apology
• "I already said sorry" — treating repair as a checkbox, not a process
• "You're too sensitive" — invalidating hurt guarantees it returns bigger
• "Fine, I'm the worst" — victim-playing shifts focus to your ego
• "Let's just move on" — premature closure buries the pain

Every one of these chooses being right over being connected. Repair asks you to choose the relationship instead.