Your DTR Preparation Guide

This is the define-the-relationship (DTR) talk. Prepare for it with these steps:

• Know what you want before the conversation — do not go in hoping they will define it for you
• Prepare for every answer — what will you do if they say yes, no, or maybe?
• Choose the right moment — relaxed, private, no time pressure
• Lead with your own feelings — "I really enjoy spending time with you and I'd like us to be exclusive" is clear and brave
• Do not apologize for wanting clarity — knowing where you stand is a basic relationship need