A Quick Sorting Test

Not sure which one you're looking at? Run each concern through two questions: Is it a one-off or a pattern? and Is it a behavior or a value? A one-off behavior is a red flag. A clashing core value is a dealbreaker.

• Trashing every ex — pattern of behavior, so red flag
• Love-bombing — too much affection too fast; behavior to watch, so red flag
• Avoiding all vulnerability — keeps things surface-level; red flag
• Wanting kids when you don't — a value, so dealbreaker
• Clashing on fidelity — a value, so dealbreaker

Red flags ask you to keep watching. Dealbreakers ask you to leave.