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LESSON 5 · Network Without Being Awkward

The Ask-Loop

A keep-in-touch system eventually earns one move: the warm ask. Done right, it reactivates dormant value without costing you any goodwill.

The template: acknowledge the time gap, reference something specific about them, name the ask clearly, and explicitly release them from any obligation. "It has been a minute, Sarah. Saw your piece on the acquisition — congrats. Quick ask: I'm exploring a role at [Company] and noticed you worked with [Person] there. If you're happy to make an intro, I'd appreciate it. Totally understand if timing is off."

Five sentences, no pressure attached. Most people reply quickly, and many forward the intro soon after.